Why Is The Discussion of Death Often Taboo?

Imagine yourself on Saturday morning, January 13, 2018, at 8:07 a.m. You have just completed breakfast and have stepped into a small passenger bus for a driving tour of the Road to Hana on the island of Maui in Hawaii.  The tour guide requests passengers switch their phones into airplane mode to prevent interference with her microphone and to save battery life, since there are few cell towers on the scenic route. As we drive past the Home Depot and I hear the pings of alerts on phones, I assume the sound is a result of people following the guide’s directions; however, I soon realize something is amiss as panic blossoms on faces like the hibiscus flower seen on the island. Pulling over to the side of the road, our guide calmly declares there is a situation and she is phoning the tour’s headquarters for more information. As I sit on the back row of the bus along with an Asian couple, I discover that phones were receiving an alert that stated, “A ballistic missile threat inbound for Hawaii. Seek immediate shelter. This is not a drill.” 

Without alerting us to her panic, our guide speaks calmly with her headquarters and we are encouraged to continue our tour. Some passengers on the bus are asking for the driver to take us to Home Depot for shelter; however, if this is a nuclear missile headed for Hawaii, what good will hiding out in a warehouse store do?

Upon arrival at the first stop of the tour at Ho’okipa Beach to view windsurfers, our guide gathers more information about the text alert, discovering officials are considering it a mistake. So, the Road to Hana tour continues without any real knowledge of what has transpired. Laughingly, I share that if I am going to die today, I know where I’m going, and I’ll just take the journey from one paradise to another! Admittingly, I’ve never really feared my own death, it’s the living in this world that I find threatening.

Sharing that personal experience from Hawaii is just one example that demonstrates a need to reflect on the life we are currently leading with an intentionality towards time. Because we all have an unknown expiration date, it might be vital to ponder what we are doing now in preparation for our homecoming in Heaven. One interesting consideration that has emerged several times over the last few months is connected to the two Greek terms we have for time, Chronos and Kairos. Although we must consider Chronos time, chronological or sequential time, because we do all pass away; I think it’s also valuable to not overlook Kairos, the appointed time when we are serving God’s purpose for our lives. In moving to considering Kairos time, the discussion of death moves away from a tragic event and into a joyful expectation of being face-to-face with our Savior. As Billy Graham states in Nearing Home, “I invite you to explore with me not only the realities of life as we grow older but also the hope and fulfillment-and even joy-that can be ours once we learn to look at these years from God’s point of view and discover His strength to sustain us every day.”

Bob Buford agrees with Graham’s perspective in Finishing Well when he shares, “…many people don’t think of death as a joyous trip to a world that is so much better than this one. Most Christians are terrified by the thought of dying…We live pale and empty lives here on earth because we’re ignorant about what lies ahead, and we need to see that the dimensions of life are so much greater than what we can see, hear, and touch today.”

If we shift our focus away from avoiding conversations of death and instead into how we are stewarding our resources as we prepare for that day, how much more rewarding would we find the work God has called us to do? Death could be a moment to embrace knowing we have fulfilled our purpose on this earth. Although we are not privy to what occurs when our time on earth is done, I embrace Dallas Willard’s perspective that it’s like “stepping through an invisible barrier into that other existence.” So, I proceed in this life to await with joy that moment that my Savior embraces me as you see in the photo on this page.

4 thoughts on “Why Is The Discussion of Death Often Taboo?

  1. Don Van's avatar Don Van

    Dear Dr. Powell:
    Another excellent thinking and writing! My take-aways:
    1. Before there is a “homecoming in heaven” isn’t there a “homegoing to heaven”? I pray that the Holy Spirit will help me live fittingly for that end result.
    2. Thank you for pointing out the Kairos time and the Chronos time. Excellent reminder of what the Lord is giving us today. Dear Lord, please help me to take advantage of the daylight. Today.
    3. There could be… there is… there will be death in paradise–fake paradise that is 🙂

    Have a blessed Christmas to you and yours!

    Don

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  3. Unknown's avatar Anonymous

    Dr. Powell,
    I admit, I used to be afraid of death myself but in the past year, I have been in the hospital a few times and I have really found a reason to be happy with myself. I found myself in the ER over in Jackson General the day before fall break of 2019 because I was having intense body pain and I was stuck in the bathroom from 5am clear til I called someone to come get me and take me to convenient care. I was told to immediately go to the ER because they thought I would need ‘exploratory surgery’ and they told me that I might be septic. I went to the ER, they plugged me up to all types of devices and I was to weak to really remember a lot of it. I was there for a few hours and they eventually let me go when I could ingest a whole bottle of Gatorade. I haven’t taken water for granted since I was told I could go home.
    They concluded that my body was undergoing an extreme amount of stress to the point of shutting down. Ever since then, God has really been showing me that I need to trust Him with my worries and not be extremely stressed out about absolutely everything. The second time they admitted me to the ER, I had to spend a week in the hospital because I was showing stroke like symptoms and my heart was racing. They said that I could be at risk for a heart attack. Laying there in bed, I had a lot of time to think about how life has treated me and how I have responded to the life God has blessed me with. That is why I am taking another year at Union before I go into the complete nursing program Union as to offer. God gave me the strength and the will to carry on and be able to overcome the problems I have been having. Death is only the end result of the human condition. It is not the way God wanted us to meet Him but as Christians, we have the joy of meeting Him daily in prayer and praising him for each morning we see.

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